Friday, February 15, 2008

Don't Be a Back-seat Driver in Your Own Life

Equilibrium February 15 , 2008


Some months ago I listened to a woman (let’s call her Kate) calling me long-distance. “I should have taken that opportunity when it came up,” she told me. “Now I feel it’s passed me by.”

A few minutes later she wondered out loud if she should leave her current comfortable but far from challenging job to pursue a career in the area that was of great interest to her. As she talked about it I could hear the energy in her voice rising. In another moment, her tone flattening once more, she said “I don’t think it’s sensible to make such a move right now; why would I want to take that kind of risk until I’m sure I could make it work?”

Kate seemed to be listening to the cautious, though well-meaning, voices in her head that didn’t belong to her. It transpired that she had held herself back through her whole life because she wanted to please others who wanted her to ‘be happy’ and ‘not do anything foolish’. It was as though she was not driving her own life but rather sitting in the back seat watching for any danger spots in the road and calling out to whoever was driving to be careful.

Last week, on our regular call, she reported that she had landed her first big contract in her new business and was enthusiastic about the year ahead for the first time that she could remember.

She was in the driving-seat, going in the direction she wanted and enjoying every minute.

In peace


kathy said...

Hi Warren,

Serendipity was at work this week as I read your article on Change and then spent Thursday afternoon in a grade four and five classroom where the students were working with the concept of change as their year long study!

They are learning that to support each other in their goal setting as they are all on Independent Program Plans in the GATE Program(gifted and talented learners). Change is part of their everyday awareness. Here is the list that the students had access to on a wall poster:

-changing and not changing...both have their costs -change an be simple or drastic -change happens everyday -change can be controlled or controlling -change can be a tool -everyone is effected/affected by change -change is unpredictable -change takes place everywhere -change an be positive or negative -change is crucial for action

I have a feeling that this group of students may have more positive than negative change experiences as they will be aware that change is universal and they will need never be alone when having to face and adapt to change.

Change is definitely more than just a word to learn how to spell!

Loving my education,


kathy said...

OOps wrong newsletter!