Don't Be a Back-seat Driver in Your Own Life

Equilibrium February 15 , 2008

DON'T BE A BACK-SEAT DRIVER IN YOUR OWN LIFE

from The 9 Steps to Emotional Fitness

Some months ago I listened to a woman (let’s call her Kate) calling me long-distance. “I should have taken that opportunity when it came up,” she told me. “Now I feel it’s passed me by.”

A few minutes later she wondered out loud if she should leave her current comfortable but far from challenging job to pursue a career in the area that was of great interest to her. As she talked about it I could hear the energy in her voice rising. In another moment, her tone flattening once more, she said “I don’t think it’s sensible to make such a move right now; why would I want to take that kind of risk until I’m sure I could make it work?”

Kate seemed to be listening to the cautious, though well-meaning, voices in her head that didn’t belong to her. It transpired that she had held herself back through her whole life because she wanted to please others who wanted her to ‘be happy’ and ‘not do anything foolish’. It was as though she was not driving her own life but rather sitting in the back seat watching for any danger spots in the road and calling out to whoever was driving to be careful.

Last week, on our regular call, she reported that she had landed her first big contract in her new business and was enthusiastic about the year ahead for the first time that she could remember.

She was in the driving-seat, going in the direction she wanted and enjoying every minute.

In peace

Warren

Spiirituality Unifies Humanity

Equilibrium February 1 , 2008

SPIRITUALITY UNIFIES HUMANITY RELIGION DIVIDES HUMANITY

from The 9 Steps to Emotional Fitness

Little causes more heated debate and potentially hurt feelings than the topic of religion between people of differing opinions and faiths. While religious values and tradition have been of great comfort to millions of people, it has also caused enmity between neighbours, civil strife and even wars that have led to the annihilation of at least as many millions.

Of course, it is seldom the religion itself that advocates any hatred or violence, or even non-acceptance of others, but the righteousness of its proponents who cannot believe that another’s belief is as good as his or hers. “Your God isn’t as good as my God” quickly converts into “You are not as good as me.”

Underlying all religions is the sense of spirituality that forms their basis. What would that sense of spirit be like without being attached to any religion? What would it be like not attached to any concept of God, or a “higher power”?

My very personal view is that we have had to create that concept of God in order to deal with the wonder and mystery of life, which is too vast a question for any human to understand. Instead of being content to accept the wonder, we have to explain it. If we were to let that go we could be spiritual without being religious. And once we are in a state of wonder without explanation, I believe we are in the state of spiritual awareness that embraces all individuals.

No, I don’t expect to change the world with this message. I do hope to provoke some thoughtful discussion, and maybe even some heightened unity among my friends of many different beliefs.

In peace
Warren

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Richness of the Soul

Equilibrium January 18, 2008

GREAT WEALTH IS NO SUBSTITUTE FOR RICHNESS OF THE SOUL
from The 9 Steps to Emotional Fitness

Money isn’t everything, as the saying goes, but it sure helps. Sadly, the amount of energy put into attaining money does make it look as though it is everything to most people. The very fact that wealthy people always seem to seek more money reinforces that image.

I have worked with some extremely wealthy individuals and others who have hardly anything to call their own. Most come somewhere in between. They have varying concerns about money, although interestingly not necessarily in proportion to how much or little they have.

More of a common question has to do with identity. Once they reach behind their outward appearance and material trappings, they probe for the inner sense of who they are. They begin to dig for the soul.

There is to be found the greatest treasure of all. This is no quest for the Holy Grail, the answer to life’s mysteries, or the so-called “secret”. This is a more satisfying and enduring adventure of self-discovery. Once you reach out for that inner sense of who you really are and have touched and celebrated your own uniqueness, you have glimpsed into your soul. Keep exploring and you will find ever-growing seams of richness. As you do that, watch what happens.

Your relationships will blossom, your authentic self comes out in your leadership abilities, you are at peace with yourself. And you become more successful in all areas of your life.

In peace
Warren

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