Thursday, November 13, 2008

When you are angry with your child,

Equilibrium #105 - November 10, 2008


When you are angry with your child, remember who that is
from The 9 Steps to Emotional Fitness
Any parent who gets angry with his or her child (and what parent doesn’t?) usually does so with self-justified good reason. The reason is more often than not about a behaviour that seems unreasonable or unsafe or offensive in some way. Being angry is a natural reaction to such behaviours in anyone, especially our own children.

Being angry is one thing; how we show and act on that anger is another.

Here’s one rule of thumb before you react: remember that when you see or experience unacceptable behaviour in your own child, you are partly responding to the child who is still within you. Ask yourself about your own experiences and feelings as a child. What did you have, or not have from your own parents? How did they react to you in ways that felt positive or negative, fair or unfair to you? Always apply that rule of “Do Unto Others What You Would Have Them Do Unto You”, and you will be teaching the greatest lesson of all in interpersonal skills. And learning it at the same time.
In peace
You can catch Warren Redman at a couple of events in November. The first is at LaserHealth Solutions where he is giving a presentation on “Recipes for Inner Peace” on Saturday, November 15th. Contact us for information. The other is at the conference on Diversity and Mental Health on November 21st. Contact Helgi Eyford; phone: 403-943-6767
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Wednesday, November 5, 2008

Inner peace and outer chaos make fine partners

Equilibrium #104 November 3, 2008


Inner peace and outer chaos make fine partners
from The 9 Steps to Emotional Fitness

This fear, or inner chaos, is what is inspiring the money market’s fall from great heights. It has little bearing on reality; instead it causes what becomes reality. As always, our energy will attract whatever we get and the fear of economic failure becomes a self-fulfilling prophesy.

Imagine if nobody took any notice because we were all in a state of inner peace? While there will be inevitable effects from the greed and gross abuse of other people’s money that we have witnessed in the past few years, there would not be the panic and mayhem being caused.

There has never been, nor will ever be, a time in which there is no chaos somewhere in our world. If we succumb to and mirror that chaos by our inner fears and reactions, we will be overcome by the added burden. When we become more emotionally fit and achieve a greater degree of inner peace, no matter what is going on around us, we actually have a positive effect on that outer world.

Try it. It works.

In peace
You can catch Warren Redman at a couple of events in November. The first is at LaserHealth Solutions where he is giving a presentation on “Recipes for Inner Peace” on Saturday, November 15th. Contact us for information. The other is at the conference on Diversity and Mental Health on November 21st. Contact Helgi Eyford; phone: 403-943-6765
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Monday, October 27, 2008

This swamp may not be much, but it’s mine

Equilibrium #103 - October 27, 2008


This swamp may not be much, but it’s mine
from The 9 Steps to Emotional Fitness

This is, perhaps, another way of saying “wherever you go, there you are”. Since you were born, you have been in your own place, and always a place of your own making. Like it or not, it’s yours; and here’s the point, you can make it just as you want it.

The “swamp” may be your physical environment, your home, place of work or wherever you hang out. It may also be the place in which you view yourself in life; how you see yourself fit into your community, your personal and professional world and the place where you feel you have arrived in your life.

The centre of your own being is within you. That’s your real swamp. And out of that swamp, just as it has been in nature, can emerge the unique individual that is your personal offering to the world. Even if you don’t think it’s much, just think about how special it is.

In peace

You can catch Warren Redman at a couple of events in November. The first is at LaserHealth Solutions where he is giving a presentation on “Recipes for Inner Peace” on Saturday, November 15th. Contact us for information. The other is at the conference on Diversity and Mental Health on November 21st. Contact Helgi Eyford; phone: 403-943-6765.
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Friday, October 17, 2008

Point a finger at someone and you’ll see three fingers pointing back

Equilibrium #102, October 17, 2008


Point a finger at someone and you’ll see three fingers pointing back
from The 9 Steps to Emotional Fitness

Apportioning blame is a human trait arising from hurt and insecurity and will always come back to us. When you become aware that the person who mostly sends it back is yourself, you start to think twice before pointing the finger.

And don’t blame me if this briefest of messages causes you to feel a little guilty!

In peace
Last chance to train in Calgary with Warren Redman! If you have been thinking about training as an Emotional Fitness Coach and attending one of the courses that run in Calgary, October 20th is the last course that Warren will be running personally. Call or e-mail now to see how it can work for you.
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Friday, October 10, 2008

Equilibrium #101, October 9, 2008

State of Flux
a novel by Warren Redman

A thanks to those of you who, over the summer, gave me feedback on my manuscript “State of Flux”, which is a novel set in Canada and Europe and is a tale of four people searching for their destiny. While the vast majority gave what I could call “rave” reviews, I also appreciated the comments from the one or two who said it isn’t their kind of book.

There are still quite a few who have not yet made any comments (maybe you haven’t read it yet or didn’t like it and don’t know how to tell me.)

Whatever your feedback, I will find it very valuable. Oh, and if you didn’t ask for a copy (which I will send electronically) you can still do so. The deal is that you send me your critique of it in a paragraph or two.

In peace
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Tuesday, September 30, 2008

When Something Hurts

Equilibrium #100, September 29, 2008

WHEN SOMETHING HURTS, YOU KNOW YOU ARE ALIVE
from The 9 Steps to Emotional Fitness

Very few people enjoy pain, whether it’s physical or emotional. We would rather escape from it in some way - if only we could. Physical pain, in today’s more medically sophisticated and wealthy societies, is relatively simple to alleviate. Emotional pain tends to be harder.

The connection between the two is clear; take the simple case of head, neck, stomach and back pains as a result of some emotional distress.

It’s all part of being human, both the incidence of pain and our desire to avoid it. But what if instead, we embraced the pain? Pain of all sorts is a signal to us that something is wrong. The more we attempt simply to cover it up, the less we are likely to uncover the source and deal with it in the healthiest and most helpful way possible.

You are familiar with the saying “no pain – no gain” (not one I particularly believe). Here’s another one: “no pain – no brain”. At least, when you are in pain you know you are alive. The best way I know to handle pain is to explore its root and use our inner resources to transform that pain into something that works for us.

In peace
Last chance to train in Calgary with Warren Redman! If you have been thinking about training as an Emotional Fitness Coach and attending one of the courses that run in Calgary, the upcoming one is the last that Warren will be running personally. Call or e-mail now to see how it can work for you.
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Friday, September 19, 2008

The Only Coincidence

Equilibrium September 15, 2008

THE ONLY COINCIDENCE IS THAT YOU NOTICED IT AGAIN
from The 9 Steps to Emotional Fitness

It was Carl Jung who popularised the word “synchronicity” to describe apparently random and unconnected events that appear to take place in a connected way. Chaos theorists and others who advocate such concepts as the Law of Attraction recognize similar connections between two or more occurrences as being part of a universal design.

What fascinates me is that there are those for whom there are always connections and those for whom this is seldom, if ever true; who see each event that takes place in life as just another random one.

One person I know just saw himself as unlucky because accidents always seem to happen to him. No sooner has he got over one thing, than another takes place. Only now is he beginning to accept that there is a connection between them all – and it’s him!

The point is that he is now starting to notice how and why things occur and that they are a result of something that he has done, or not done. The “coincidence” of his “accidents” have now become noticeable to him.

The more aware we are of ourselves, our life, how we respond and connect and act, the more we see that there is no such thing as a coincidence. Instead, we get to understand how we can be more in control of our own lives and circumstances.

In peace

I’d love you to learn the techniques and processes that bring more personal power to others – and at the same time bring satisfaction and rewards to you. Give me a call now to see how you can become an Emotional Fitness Coach.
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