Friday, October 10, 2008

Equilibrium #101, October 9, 2008

State of Flux
a novel by Warren Redman

A thanks to those of you who, over the summer, gave me feedback on my manuscript “State of Flux”, which is a novel set in Canada and Europe and is a tale of four people searching for their destiny. While the vast majority gave what I could call “rave” reviews, I also appreciated the comments from the one or two who said it isn’t their kind of book.

There are still quite a few who have not yet made any comments (maybe you haven’t read it yet or didn’t like it and don’t know how to tell me.)

Whatever your feedback, I will find it very valuable. Oh, and if you didn’t ask for a copy (which I will send electronically) you can still do so. The deal is that you send me your critique of it in a paragraph or two.

In peace
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Tuesday, September 30, 2008

When Something Hurts

Equilibrium #100, September 29, 2008

WHEN SOMETHING HURTS, YOU KNOW YOU ARE ALIVE
from The 9 Steps to Emotional Fitness

Very few people enjoy pain, whether it’s physical or emotional. We would rather escape from it in some way - if only we could. Physical pain, in today’s more medically sophisticated and wealthy societies, is relatively simple to alleviate. Emotional pain tends to be harder.

The connection between the two is clear; take the simple case of head, neck, stomach and back pains as a result of some emotional distress.

It’s all part of being human, both the incidence of pain and our desire to avoid it. But what if instead, we embraced the pain? Pain of all sorts is a signal to us that something is wrong. The more we attempt simply to cover it up, the less we are likely to uncover the source and deal with it in the healthiest and most helpful way possible.

You are familiar with the saying “no pain – no gain” (not one I particularly believe). Here’s another one: “no pain – no brain”. At least, when you are in pain you know you are alive. The best way I know to handle pain is to explore its root and use our inner resources to transform that pain into something that works for us.

In peace
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Friday, September 19, 2008

The Only Coincidence

Equilibrium September 15, 2008

THE ONLY COINCIDENCE IS THAT YOU NOTICED IT AGAIN
from The 9 Steps to Emotional Fitness

It was Carl Jung who popularised the word “synchronicity” to describe apparently random and unconnected events that appear to take place in a connected way. Chaos theorists and others who advocate such concepts as the Law of Attraction recognize similar connections between two or more occurrences as being part of a universal design.

What fascinates me is that there are those for whom there are always connections and those for whom this is seldom, if ever true; who see each event that takes place in life as just another random one.

One person I know just saw himself as unlucky because accidents always seem to happen to him. No sooner has he got over one thing, than another takes place. Only now is he beginning to accept that there is a connection between them all – and it’s him!

The point is that he is now starting to notice how and why things occur and that they are a result of something that he has done, or not done. The “coincidence” of his “accidents” have now become noticeable to him.

The more aware we are of ourselves, our life, how we respond and connect and act, the more we see that there is no such thing as a coincidence. Instead, we get to understand how we can be more in control of our own lives and circumstances.

In peace

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Tuesday, August 26, 2008

The Journey.....

Equilibrium August 26, 2008

The journey into our emotions, into “inner space”, is possibly the last
great journey left for humankind.

Here’s a quote from the late great George Carlin, just sent to me by a friend of mine. I think it says it all:

The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider freeways, but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness.
We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom.
We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often.
We've learned how to make a living, but not a life. We've added years to life not life to years. We've been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbour. We conquered outer space but not inner space. We've done larger things, but not better things.
We've cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We've conquered the atom, but not our prejudice. We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We've learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less.
These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes. These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom. A time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just hit delete...
Remember; spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever.
Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side. Remember, to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn't cost a cent.
Remember, to say, 'I love you' to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you.
Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again. Give time to love, give time to speak! And give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.
AND ALWAYS REMEMBER: Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.
George Carlin

In peace
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Wednesday, August 13, 2008

HOW YOU FEEL IS WHAT WE GET

HOW YOU FEEL IS WHAT WE GET
It’s hard to be so self-aware that we understand how other people see us. I was reminded of that (again) when working with a couple recently. I asked them each to say what they had heard the other say and to get as much as they could into their partner’s shoes in describing what they felt.

They tried; they really did, although it was a challenge for them. Three interesting things happened. One was that each of them described what they thought the other person said and felt with what seemed to be reasonable accuracy from what I had observed. The second thing was that both of them denied that they felt that way. As one said, “I don’t feel like that at all – at least I don’t think so.” The third thing that emerged was that, in turn, each later said that they did feel just as their partner had said, and hadn’t realized it.

It is quite amazing how accurately our innate sensors pick up on the feelings of others. Almost as amazing is how unaware we are of how we are feeling at any given time. We give out the signals quite sub-consciously, hoping, perhaps that someone else will pick up on them. The sad thing is that most people don’t know what to do with what they receive. All we know is that what you feel is what we get.
In peace
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Friday, August 1, 2008

Assumptions Are The Death of Communication

Equilibrium August 1, 2008

ASSUMPTIONS ARE THE DEATH OF COMMUNICATION

“I thought you said you’d done that.” “No, I said I’d need more time and some training before I could complete it.” “Well, I assumed you were getting the training.” “No, I was waiting for you to train me.”

This was the gist of a conversation I overheard recently in a coffee bar between two people working in the head office of a large corporation. Couples make the same kind of assumptions, each thinking that the other said or meant something that never got checked out until, perhaps, they talk it through in front of me.

Everywhere, in small and large organizations, in families and across communities, communication breaks down because we make assumptions based on what we believe instead of listening and understanding what the other actually means.

Our Emotional Fitness training and coaching enables individuals, couples, teams and organizations to create internal environments where they can truly communicate in a way that brings the best out of everyone.

Once we become more emotionally fit, it is easier to set aside the inner voices that prevent us from seeing and hearing clearly. Check out your own assumptions next time you have a conversation – and don’t assume that the other person is the one who has to change!

In peace
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Thursday, July 24, 2008

Calling All Dads!

Equilibrium July 24, 2008

CALLING ALL DADS! NEW CD OUT NOW

BE A GREAT DAD – building your legacy is the title of a new CD produced by Warren Redman in conjunction with Families Matter, a Calgary-based not-for-profit organization dedicated to the healthy development and well-being of families.

The CD is a series of interviews with dads, kids and moms about the five things great dads do. Also on the disc is a special excerpt of a story from Stuart McLean.

If you’re a dad, make sure you get this for yourself. And for the rest of you, give this as a great gift to any dad you know.

You can now purchase this audio CD online through us. Most of the proceeds will go to Families Matter to go back into their development work with fathers.

In peace
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