Warren Redman

I’m now working with people who wish to train as Emotional Fitness Coaches at a distance. Wherever you are, you can now learn the tools to enable you to offer the most empowering coaching approach available. Contact me to find out how you can begin.

www.EFitInstitute.com warren@EFitInstitute.com

(403) 245-5463 or toll free 1-866-310-EFit (3348)

Friday, June 6, 2008

The Moment of Truth Comes Any Time You Want To Hear It

Equilibrium June 2, 2008

THE MOMENT OF TRUTH COMES ANY TIME YOU WANT TO HEAR IT

from The 9 Steps to Emotional Fitness

There comes a time when we will each be confronted by a life-changing event or decision. Perhaps you have already faced one or two of those in your life. You will understand what I mean if you have.

Frequently, the people who ask for Emotional Fitness coaching have recently faced or had a cathartic experience. Maybe it is the loss of a job or a relationship, or the gaining or losing of a big contract. Sometimes it is the dawning realization that life must have something better to offer than the strains of everyday pressures giving little peace of mind and growing dissatisfactions.

In those times, we get to tune in to messages that have been there all the time, yet which we seldom hear. The messages include the fact that we are always in charge of our life as long as we are conscious about that and decide to choose how we want to live it. They include the understanding that our world is exactly the one we construct, and if we don’t like it, we can change it.

The real truth is that we are hugely powerful. Face that and you have faced the real truth about yourself.

In peace

Warren

Attend our introductory session on June 12th in the morning and discover how to become an Emotional Fitness Coach. These are the skills proven to be of great benefit to leaders within the workplace, in groups and in individual practices. Give a call now to register.

(403) 245-5463 or toll free 1-866-310-EFit (3348)

Wednesday, May 28, 2008

Put Your Buts Into A Can

Equilibrium May 26 , 2008

PUT YOUR BUTS INTO A CAN

There is nothing wrong with that little word but, but I take care how I use it, since an over or inappropriate use gives the message that I negate myself.

Emotional Fitness includes the ability to consciously choose our language and how we use words to express ourselves. Words are powerful. A small word like but has the power to undo hopes and dreams. Used often enough with our children, or our employees or spouse, we can create doubt and indecision.

One dad I know with two very energetic and bright young sons responds to their requests and occasionally downright outrageous ideas for what they want by asking how can we do that? instead of the perhaps more common one of, but we do not have the money (or nobody has done that before, or you will never be able to learn that in time …..).

When you hear a but come out of your mouth, or even circulate around your brain, check the meaning behind it. Transforming that but into a can is one way of opening out the possibilities instead of closing them down. Imagine what that can do to a life.

In peace

I have just finished the workshop in Ottawa this past weekend. I will be back in Calgary and ready to start the distance learning course for those who wish to train as Emotional Fitness Coaches. Contact me now if you want to take part or to join the Emotional Fitness Coach Training by Modules that begins in Calgary in June.

www.EFitInstitute.com warren@EFitInstitute.com

(403) 245-5463 or toll free 1-866-310-EFit (3348)

Thursday, May 15, 2008

We Can All Win The Human Race

Equilibrium May 12 , 2008

WE CAN ALL WIN THE HUMAN RACE

It’s not a race. We are, but it isn’t. Oddly we do often appear to act as though we are not from the same species and that, indeed, the race is on to be better than the other guy or to have more and show more success in whatever way we deem it.

The fact is that there are comparatively few winners and a huge number of losers in the way in which the chips have fallen and we humans have responded. We still act as our ancestors did, willing to climb over the person in front of us to get to the top. Of course, within the safe confines of our micro-chip consumer world in corporate settings within affluent societies, the desire to win comes through politely and subtly; in the undercurrent of snide remarks or the deliberate silent treatment targeted at a colleague.

It’s not as harsh a punishment as the withholding of economic aid and empowerment of communities in starving communities, but it has its toll on the whole human race.

There are different forms of winning. If in a business deal or an agreement between a parent and a child we can see that it’s possible to have a “win-win”, then it follows that we could all win from a willingness to live by the principle that what’s important in life is not to have more than we can possibly consume but rather what we hold as values. Truth, love, sincerity and safety for all are a few starting points. There’s enough to go around.

In peace

The world needs more Emotional Fitness Coaches. If you are seeking greater fulfilment in your work and already have a background in personal growth, take a look at what this training can do for you.

(403) 245-5463 or toll free 1-866-310-EFit (3348)

Thursday, May 1, 2008

Love Doesn't Come With An "If"

Equilibrium May 1 , 2008

LOVE DOESN’T COME WITH AN “IF”

Sure, there are some things that are conditional, and are entitled to be. Trust counts among them; entering into a business contract is another; agreeing to take on another responsibility a third. Love is not one. There can be nothing conditional about love, or it is not love.

We humans have an apparently limitless capacity for love, both in its giving and in its receiving. At the same time, we have an equally surprising ability to deny ourselves and others of that love. Self-doubt, fear and anger can so often obscure our innate and authentic self that the scraps of love we are willing to offer and accept become conditional, so that the little attempts we make can disappear altogether.

You may be thinking of the ones close to you whom you love. I’d like you to think more widely than that, and perhaps differently about how you can show your capacity for love. Think about how you show your love as a boss, or a work colleague, or a lawyer, dentist or storekeeper. Think about the unconditional love you can demonstrate to your neighbour, or the stranger you meet in the gym.

The “if” that gets in the way could be the internal voice that says “I’m angry with this person because the work hasn’t been finished properly”, or “this person won’t want to talk to me”, or “that person looks too busy (or intimidating, or unfriendly etc.). Set aside those inner messages for a moment and offer the greatest gift of love that one human can freely give another. Listen.

In peace

A couple of spaces are left for our new Emotional Fitness for Leaders. Check it out. For information click on our training section in the website. The first workshop is May 8th and 9th. And when you are ready to explore being an Emotional Fitness Coach, we are ready for you with our new modular course series beginning at the end of May, our distance learning and the next class-room program in October.

Warren

(403) 245-5463 or toll free 1-866-310-EFit (3348)

Thursday, April 17, 2008

Equilibrium April 17, 2008

THE POINT OF LIFE MAY JUST BE TO EXPERIENCE IT

http://www.efitinstitute.com/ warren@EFitInstitute.com

In the universal human search for meaning, there are almost as many answers as there are people. This is often organized into our religions, cultures, nations and communities. Victor Frankl, wrote much of his book “Man’s Search for Meaning” while encarcerated in the Nazi concentration camp of Auschwitz. My own mentor and teacher, Eugene Heimler was a contemporary of Frankl and was another survivor of Auschwitz. Heimler’s books included “Survival in Society” which eventually became the basis for my own work and books.

Both of those great teachers sought to understand life’s meaning, largely as a result of their living in a totally negative and, one might imagine, meaningless environment. What they wrote about was their own experience. This brings me to the conclusion that the meaning of life - its whole point – is simply to experience it. And our duty is to relate our experience. And listen to the experience of others.

That’s how we will learn. And grow. And hopefully, never allow anyone to experience the same again. At home, in our work places, in our relationships with others, when we create the opportunity to share experience, everyone’s lives become more meaningful and worthwhile.

In peace
Warren

Are you, or do you know, a leader wanting to create a different, more positive working environment? If so, the new Emotional Fitness for Leaders workshop series could be the ideal way forward. For information click on our training section in the website. The first workshop is May 8th and 9th.

Warren

(403) 245-5463 or toll free 1-866-310-EFit (3348)

Equilibrium April 8, 2008

WHEN ALL IS SAID AND DONE, THERE’S A LOT MORE SAID THAN DONE

Here’s one of the quotes that I didn’t think up – it’s an old one that I recall from my childhood and one that has become more pertinent the more I hear people talk without the evidence of any action.

One of the key elements that constitutes the 9 Steps to Emotional Fitness is that each one of them moves inevitably to a change of understanding and ultimately to changed behaviour. In other words, this is not just talk; it is a call to action. I am often asked whether Emotional Fitness is coaching or counselling and what the difference is anyway. Our work at the Emotional Fitness Institute doesn’t fit neatly into either category; it is a discipline in its own right.

Being emotionally fit doesn’t simply mean feeling better about ourselves, it also means that we act in a way that is harmonious with our thoughts, words and feelings. In our world of greed, self-righteousness and discord, it is tough to be true to our personal ideals in a way that is authentic and a demonstration of how humans can behave in ways that respects all.

Forty years after his death, we can still admire the work and life of Martin Luther King who was prepared to do whatever it took to make sure that his words had substance and made a difference. But how many of us are prepared to do more than just the talking?

In peace
Warren

Take a look for the new modular training programs we are now offering. One is specifically designed for Leaders, the other for those who wish to become Emotional Fitness Coaches.

Warren