tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-76865074134059202642024-03-08T15:53:47.974-08:00Warren RedmanAuthor, Counsellor, Coach and Facilitator, Master Trainer of Emotional Fitness in Calgary, Alberta CanadaWarren Redmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01828383106745000130noreply@blogger.comBlogger29125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7686507413405920264.post-72235591338199794522009-04-13T16:22:00.000-07:002009-04-13T16:28:39.899-07:00A SMILE TODAY COULD SAVE SOMEBODY'S LIFE TOMORROW<div align="center"><span style="color:#000099;">A SMILE TODAY COULD SAVE SOMEBODY'S LIFE TOMORROW</span></div><div align="center">from <a href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=10" target="_blank">The 9 Steps to Emotional Fitness </a> </div><div align="center"> </div><div align="left">We seldom if ever understand the full impact of our actions. Yesterday I was talking with a senior manager who told me how satisfied she was in the corporation. “My boss really listens and supports me in my work. That’s so different from my previous situation, where I had to struggle to be heard and felt that I was being judged all the time by a boss who seemed to enjoy putting people down.”</div><div align="left"><br />Then she went on to tell me that one of her colleagues in that previous company had attempted suicide after repeatedly being told that he had to do more and being, as she said “hounded by the boss to get his act together.” </div><div align="left"><br />“You know,” she told me, “all this fellow needed was some support and encouragement, and maybe even a smile now and then to help him feel better about himself, and he would have thrived.” </div><div align="left"><br />Just imagine; a smile today could save somebody’s life.</div><div align="left"> </div><div align="left">In peace</div><div align="left"><br /><a href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/warrenredman.aspx" target="_blank">Warren</a> </div><div align="left"> </div><div align="center"><br /><a title="" href="" target="">www.EFitInstitute.com</a> <a href="mailto:warren@EFitInstitute.com">warren@EFitInstitute.com</a> </div><div align="center">Toll free 1-866-310-EFit (3348)<br /><a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/contactus.aspx" target="">Contact Us</a></div>Warren Redmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01828383106745000130noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7686507413405920264.post-33922601243780597172008-11-13T19:57:00.000-08:002008-11-13T20:09:10.564-08:00When you are angry with your child,<strong><span style="color:#ff9900;">Equilibrium #105 - November 10, 2008</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#ff9900;"></span></strong><br /><div align="center"><br /><strong><span style="color:#000099;">When you are angry with your child, remember who that is<br /></span></strong>from <a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=10" target="">The 9 Steps to Emotional Fitness </a> </div><div align="center"> </div><div align="justify">Any parent who gets angry with his or her child (and what parent doesn’t?) usually does so with self-justified good reason. The reason is more often than not about a behaviour that seems unreasonable or unsafe or offensive in some way. Being angry is a natural reaction to such behaviours in anyone, especially our own children. </div><div align="left"><br />Being angry is one thing; how we show and act on that anger is another. </div><div align="justify"><br />Here’s one rule of thumb before you react: remember that when you see or experience unacceptable behaviour in your own child, you are partly responding to the child who is still within you. Ask yourself about your own experiences and feelings as a child. What did you have, or not have from your own parents? How did they react to you in ways that felt positive or negative, fair or unfair to you? Always apply that rule of “Do Unto Others What You Would Have Them Do Unto You”, and you will be teaching the greatest lesson of all in interpersonal skills. And learning it at the same time.</div><div align="justify"> </div><div align="justify">In peace</div><div align="justify"><br /><a href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/warrenredman.aspx" target="_blank">Warren</a> </div><div align="justify"> </div><div align="justify"><em>You can catch Warren Redman at a couple of events in November. The first is at LaserHealth Solutions where he is giving a presentation on “</em><a href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=14" target="_blank"><em>Recipes for Inner Peace</em></a><em>” on </em><a href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=49" target="_blank"><em>Saturday, November 15th</em></a><em>. Contact us for information. The other is at the conference on Diversity and Mental Health on November 21st. Contact Helgi Eyford; phone: 403-943-6767</em></div><div align="justify"><em></em> </div><div align="center"><a title="" href="" target="">www.EFitInstitute.com</a> <a href="mailto:warren@EFitInstitute.com">warren@EFitInstitute.com</a> </div><div align="center">(403) 245-5463 or toll free 1-866-310-EFit (3348)</div><div align="center"> </div><div align="center"><a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/contactus.aspx" target="">Contact Us</a></div>Warren Redmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01828383106745000130noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7686507413405920264.post-19175405236888296912008-11-05T20:10:00.000-08:002008-11-05T20:21:27.556-08:00Inner peace and outer chaos make fine partners<span style="color:#ff6600;"><strong>Equilibrium #104 November 3, 2008</strong></span><br /><strong><span style="color:#ff6600;"></span></strong><br /><span style="color:#ff6600;"><div align="center"><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>Inner peace and outer chaos make fine partners<br /></strong></span><span style="color:#000000;">from</span><strong> </strong><a href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=10" target="_blank"><strong>The 9 Steps to Emotional Fitness </strong></a><strong> </strong></div><div align="center"><strong></strong> </div><div align="justify"><br /><span style="color:#000000;">This fear, or inner chaos, is what is inspiring the money market’s fall from great heights. It has little bearing on reality; instead it causes what becomes reality. As always, our energy will attract whatever we get and the fear of economic failure becomes a self-fulfilling prophesy.</span></div><span style="color:#000000;"><div align="justify"><br />Imagine if nobody took any notice because we were all in a state of inner peace? While there will be inevitable effects from the greed and gross abuse of other people’s money that we have witnessed in the past few years, there would not be the panic and mayhem being caused.</div><div align="justify"><br />There has never been, nor will ever be, a time in which there is no chaos somewhere in our world. If we succumb to and mirror that chaos by our inner fears and reactions, we will be overcome by the added burden. When we become more emotionally fit and achieve a greater degree of inner peace, no matter what is going on around us, we actually have a positive effect on that outer world.</div><div align="left"><br />Try it. It works.</div><div align="left"><br />In peace</div><div align="left"><br /></span><a href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/warrenredman.aspx" target="_blank">Warren</a></div><div align="left"> </div><div align="justify"><span style="color:#000000;">You can catch Warren Redman at a couple of events in November. The first is at LaserHealth</span> <span style="color:#000000;">Solutions where he is giving a presentation on “</span><a href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=14" target="_blank">Recipes for Inner Peace</a><span style="color:#000000;">” on</span> <a href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=49" target="_blank">Saturday, November 15th</a>. <span style="color:#000000;">Contact us for information. The other is at the conference on Diversity and Mental Health on November 21st. Contact Helgi Eyford; phone: 403-943-6765 </span></div><div align="justify"><span style="color:#000000;"></span> </div><span style="color:#000000;"><div align="center"><br /><a title="" href="" target="">www.EFitInstitute.com</a> <a href="mailto:warren@EFitInstitute.com">warren@EFitInstitute.com</a> </div><div align="center">(403) 245-5463 or toll free 1-866-310-EFit (3348)</div><div align="center"><br /><a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/contactus.aspx" target="">Contact Us</a></span></div><div align="left"></span> </div>Warren Redmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01828383106745000130noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7686507413405920264.post-64998231221175738282008-10-27T14:00:00.000-07:002008-10-27T14:07:41.118-07:00This swamp may not be much, but it’s mine<strong><span style="color:#ff6600;">Equilibrium #103 - October 27, 2008</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#333399;"></span></strong><br /><span style="color:#333399;"><div align="center"><br /><strong>This swamp may not be much, but it’s mine<br /></strong><span style="color:#000000;">from </span><a href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=10" target="_blank">The 9 Steps to Emotional Fitness </a></div><div align="center"> </div><div align="justify"><br /><span style="color:#000000;">This is, perhaps, another way of saying “wherever you go, there you are”. Since you were born, you have been in your own place, and always a place of your own making. Like it or not, it’s yours; and here’s the point, you can make it just as you want it.</span></div><span style="color:#000000;"><div align="justify"><br />The “swamp” may be your physical environment, your home, place of work or wherever you hang out. It may also be the place in which you view yourself in life; how you see yourself fit into your community, your personal and professional world and the place where you feel you have arrived in your life.</div><div align="justify"><br />The centre of your own being is within you. That’s your real swamp. And out of that swamp, just as it has been in nature, can emerge the unique individual that is your personal offering to the world. Even if you don’t think it’s much, just think about how special it is.<br /></span><br />In peace</div><div align="left"><br /><a href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/warrenredman.aspx" target="_blank">Warren</a> </div><div align="left"> </div><div align="justify"><br /><em><span style="color:#000000;">You can catch Warren Redman at a couple of events in November. The first is at </span></em><a href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=257" target="_blank"><em><span style="color:#000000;"><span style="color:#3366ff;">LaserHealth Solutions where he is giving a presentation on “Recipes for Inner Peace”</span> </span></em></a><em><span style="color:#000000;">on </span></em><a href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=49" target="_blank"><em><span style="color:#3333ff;">Saturday, November 15th</span></em></a><em><span style="color:#000000;"><span style="color:#3333ff;">.</span> Contact us for information. The other is at the conference on Diversity and Mental Health on November 21st. Contact Helgi Eyford; phone: 403-943-6765.</span></em></div><em><span style="color:#000000;"><div align="center"><br /></span></em><br /><a href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=1" target="_blank">www.EFitInstitute.com</a> <a href="mailto:warren@EFitInstitute.com">warren@EFitInstitute.com</a> </div><div align="center">(403) 245-5463 or toll free 1-866-310-EFit (3348)<br /><br /><a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/contactus.aspx" target="">Contact Us</a></span></div>Warren Redmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01828383106745000130noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7686507413405920264.post-33725874762898939632008-10-17T15:04:00.000-07:002008-10-17T15:12:20.137-07:00Point a finger at someone and you’ll see three fingers pointing back<strong><span style="color:#ff6600;">Equilibrium #102, October 17, 2008</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#ff6600;"></span></strong><br /><span style="color:#ff6600;"><div align="center"><br /><span style="color:#330099;"><strong>Point a finger at someone and you’ll see three fingers pointing back<br /></strong></span><span style="color:#000000;">from</span> <a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=10" target="">The 9 Steps to Emotional Fitness </a> </div><div align="center"> </div><div align="justify"><br /><span style="color:#000000;">Apportioning blame is a human trait arising from hurt and insecurity and will always come back to us. When you become aware that the person who mostly sends it back is yourself, you start to think twice before pointing the finger.</span></div><span style="color:#000000;"><div align="justify"><br />And don’t blame me if this briefest of messages causes you to feel a little guilty!</div><div align="justify"><br />In peace</div><div align="justify"><br /></span><a href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/warrenredman.aspx" target="_blank">Warren</a></div><div align="justify"> </div><div align="justify"><em><span style="color:#000000;">Last chance to train in Calgary with Warren Redman! If you have been thinking about </span></em><a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=193" target=""><em><span style="color:#3333ff;">training as an Emotional Fitness Coach</span></em></a><em><span style="color:#000000;"> and attending one of the courses that run in Calgary, October 20th is the last course that Warren will be running personally. Call or e-mail now to see how it can work for you.</span></em></div><div align="justify"><em><span style="color:#000000;"></span></em> </div><div align="center"><br /><a title="" href="" target="">www.EFitInstitute.com</a> <a href="mailto:warren@EFitInstitute.com">warren@EFitInstitute.com</a> </div><div align="center">(403) 245-5463 or toll free 1-866-310-EFit (3348)</div><div align="center"><br /><a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/contactus.aspx" target="">Contact Us</a></div><div align="justify"></span> </div>Warren Redmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01828383106745000130noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7686507413405920264.post-60454696681705232922008-10-10T15:37:00.000-07:002008-10-10T15:41:51.000-07:00<div align="left"><span style="color:#ff6600;"><strong>Equilibrium #101, October 9, 2008</strong></span></div><div align="left"><strong><span style="color:#ff6600;"></span></strong> </div><div align="center"><br /><em><strong><span style="color:#330099;">State of Flux<br /></span></strong>a novel by Warren Redman</em></div><div align="center"><em></em> </div><div align="justify"><br />A thanks to those of you who, over the summer, gave me feedback on my manuscript “State of Flux”, which is a novel set in Canada and Europe and is a tale of four people searching for their destiny. While the vast majority gave what I could call “rave” reviews, I also appreciated the comments from the one or two who said it isn’t their kind of book.</div><div align="justify"><br />There are still quite a few who have not yet made any comments (maybe you haven’t read it yet or didn’t like it and don’t know how to tell me.)</div><div align="justify"><br />Whatever your feedback, I will find it very valuable. Oh, and if you didn’t ask for a copy (which I will send electronically) you can still do so. The deal is that you send me your critique of it in a paragraph or two.</div><div align="left"><br />In peace</div><div align="left"><br /><a href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/warrenredman.aspx" target="_blank">Warren</a></div><div align="center"> </div><div align="justify"><em>Last chance to train in Calgary with Warren Redman! If you have been thinking about </em><a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=193" target=""><em>training as an Emotional Fitness Coach</em></a><em> and attending one of the courses that run in Calgary, the upcoming one is the last that Warren will be running personally. Call or e-mail now to see how it can work for you.</em></div><div align="center"> </div><div align="center"><br /><a title="" href="" target="">www.EFitInstitute.com</a> <a href="mailto:warren@EFitInstitute.com">warren@EFitInstitute.com</a> </div><div align="center">(403) 245-5463 or toll free 1-866-310-EFit (3348)</div><div align="center"><br /><a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/contactus.aspx" target="">Contact Us</a></div>Warren Redmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01828383106745000130noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7686507413405920264.post-40051398841804665212008-09-30T14:47:00.000-07:002008-09-30T14:52:10.706-07:00When Something Hurts<div align="left"><span style="color:#ff9900;"><strong>Equilibrium #100, September 29, 2008</strong></span></div><div align="left"><br /> </div><a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=10" target=""></a><span style="color:#330099;"><strong></strong></span><div align="center"><span style="color:#330099;"><strong>WHEN SOMETHING HURTS, YOU KNOW YOU ARE ALIVE</strong></span><br />from <a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=10" target="">The 9 Steps to Emotional Fitness </a></div><div align="center"> </div><div align="justify"><br />Very few people enjoy pain, whether it’s physical or emotional. We would rather escape from it in some way - if only we could. Physical pain, in today’s more medically sophisticated and wealthy societies, is relatively simple to alleviate. Emotional pain tends to be harder.</div><div align="justify"><br />The connection between the two is clear; take the simple case of head, neck, stomach and back pains as a result of some emotional distress.</div><div align="justify"><br />It’s all part of being human, both the incidence of pain and our desire to avoid it. But what if instead, we embraced the pain? Pain of all sorts is a signal to us that something is wrong. The more we attempt simply to cover it up, the less we are likely to uncover the source and deal with it in the healthiest and most helpful way possible. </div><div align="justify"><br />You are familiar with the saying “no pain – no gain” (not one I particularly believe). Here’s another one: “no pain – no brain”. At least, when you are in pain you know you are alive. The best way I know to handle pain is to explore its root and use our inner resources to transform that pain into something that works for us.</div><div align="justify"><br />In peace</div><div align="justify"><br /><a href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/warrenredman.aspx" target="_blank">Warren</a></div><div align="justify"> </div><div align="justify"><em>Last chance to train in Calgary with Warren Redman! If you have been thinking about </em><a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=136" target=""><em>training as an Emotional Fitness Coach</em></a><em> and attending one of the courses that run in Calgary, the upcoming one is the last that Warren will be running personally. Call or e-mail now to see how it can work for you.<br /></em></div><div align="center"><br /><a title="" href="" target="">www.EFitInstitute.com</a> <a href="mailto:warren@EFitInstitute.com">warren@EFitInstitute.com</a> </div><div align="center">(403) 245-5463 or toll free 1-866-310-EFit (3348)</div><div align="center"><br /><a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/contactus.aspx" target="">Contact Us</a><br /></div>Warren Redmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01828383106745000130noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7686507413405920264.post-49351904269503645362008-09-19T16:30:00.000-07:002008-09-19T16:51:27.605-07:00The Only Coincidence<div align="left"><span style="color:#cc6600;">Equilibrium September 15, 2008</span></div><div align="center"><br /><span style="color:#330099;"><strong>THE ONLY COINCIDENCE IS THAT YOU NOTICED IT AGAIN<br /></strong></span>from <a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=10" target="">The 9 Steps to Emotional Fitness </a> </div><div align="center"> </div><div align="justify"><br />It was Carl Jung who popularised the word “synchronicity” to describe apparently random and unconnected events that appear to take place in a connected way. Chaos theorists and others who advocate such concepts as the Law of Attraction recognize similar connections between two or more occurrences as being part of a universal design.</div><div align="justify"><br />What fascinates me is that there are those for whom there are always connections and those for whom this is seldom, if ever true; who see each event that takes place in life as just another random one. </div><div align="justify"><br />One person I know just saw himself as unlucky because accidents always seem to happen to him. No sooner has he got over one thing, than another takes place. Only now is he beginning to accept that there is a connection between them all – and it’s him!</div><div align="justify"><br />The point is that he is now starting to notice how and why things occur and that they are a result of something that he has done, or not done. The “coincidence” of his “accidents” have now become noticeable to him.</div><div align="justify"><br />The more aware we are of ourselves, our life, how we respond and connect and act, the more we see that there is no such thing as a coincidence. Instead, we get to understand how we can be more in control of our own lives and circumstances.</div><div align="justify"><br />In peace</div><div align="justify"><br /><a href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/warrenredman.aspx" target="_blank">Warren</a></div><div align="justify"> </div><div align="justify"><br /><em>I’d love you to learn the techniques and processes that bring more personal power to others – and at the same time bring satisfaction and rewards to you. Give me a call now to see how you can become an </em><a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=48" target=""><em>Emotional Fitness Coach</em></a><em>.</em></div><em><div align="center"><br /></em> <a title="" href="" target="">www.EFitInstitute.com</a> <a href="mailto:warren@EFitInstitute.com">warren@EFitInstitute.com</a> </div><div align="center">(403) 245-5463 or toll free 1-866-310-EFit (3348)</div><div align="center"><br /><a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/contactus.aspx" target="">Contact Us</a></div><div align="center"> </div>Warren Redmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01828383106745000130noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7686507413405920264.post-88289887610559829952008-08-26T16:10:00.000-07:002008-08-26T16:30:20.446-07:00The Journey.....<span style="color:#ff6600;"><strong>Equilibrium August 26, 2008</strong></span><br /><strong><span style="color:#ff6600;"></span></strong><br /><div align="center"><span style="color:#330099;"><strong>The journey into our emotions, into “inner space”, is possibly the last<br />great journey left for humankind.</strong></span></div><div align="center"><strong><span style="color:#330099;"></span></strong></div><div align="center">from <a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=10" target="">The 9 Steps to Emotional Fitness </a></div><div align="center"></div><div align="justify"><br />Here’s a quote from the late great George Carlin, just sent to me by a friend of mine. I think it says it all: </div><div align="justify"><br /></div><div align="justify">The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider freeways, but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness. </div><div align="justify"></div><div align="left"></div><div align="justify">We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom. </div><div align="left"></div><div align="justify">We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often. </div><div align="justify"></div><div align="left"></div><div align="justify">We've learned how to make a living, but not a life. We've added years to life not life to years. We've been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbour. We conquered outer space but not inner space. We've done larger things, but not better things. </div><div align="justify"></div><div align="left"></div><div align="justify">We've cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We've conquered the atom, but not our prejudice. We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We've learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less. </div><div align="justify"></div><div align="left"></div><div align="justify">These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes. These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom. A time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just hit delete... </div><div align="justify"></div><div align="left"></div><div align="justify"><span style="color:#000066;"><span style="color:#330099;">Remember</span>;</span> spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever. </div><div align="justify"></div><div align="left"></div><div align="justify"><span style="color:#330099;">Remember</span>, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side. Remember, to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn't cost a cent. </div><div align="justify"></div><div align="left"></div><div align="justify"><span style="color:#330099;">Remember</span>, to say, 'I love you' to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you. </div><div align="justify"></div><div align="left"></div><div align="justify"><span style="color:#330099;">Remember</span> to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again. Give time to love, give time to speak! And give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind. </div><div align="justify"></div><div align="left"></div><div align="justify"><span style="color:#330099;">AND ALWAYS REMEMBER</span>: Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.<br />George Carlin</div><div align="left"><br />In peace</div><div align="left"><br /><a href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/warrenredman.aspx" target="_blank">Warren</a></div><div align="left"> </div><div align="left"></div><div align="left"><em>And now, check out this new </em><a href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/" target="_blank"><em>video clip</em></a><em>.<br />See how you can help people conquer “inner space” and reap rewards for yourself. </em></div><div align="left"><em></em> </div><div align="left"><em></em></div><div align="center"><em><a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/" target="">www.EfitInstitute.com</a> <a href="mailto:warren@EFitInstitute.com">warren@EFitInstitute.com</a> </em></div><div align="center"><em>(403) 245-5463 or toll free 1-866-310-EFit (3348)</em></div><div align="left"><a href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/warrenredman.aspx" target="_blank"></a></div>Warren Redmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01828383106745000130noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7686507413405920264.post-48827490047975485102008-08-13T16:10:00.000-07:002008-08-13T16:20:43.690-07:00HOW YOU FEEL IS WHAT WE GET<div align="center"><span style="color:#333399;"><strong>HOW YOU FEEL IS WHAT WE GET </strong></span></div><div align="center">from <a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=10" target="">The 9 Steps to Emotional Fitness </a> </div><div align="center"> </div><div align="justify">It’s hard to be so self-aware that we understand how other people see us. I was reminded of that (again) when working with a couple recently. I asked them each to say what they had heard the other say and to get as much as they could into their partner’s shoes in describing what they felt.</div><div align="justify"><br />They tried; they really did, although it was a challenge for them. Three interesting things happened. One was that each of them described what they thought the other person said and felt with what seemed to be reasonable accuracy from what I had observed. The second thing was that both of them denied that they felt that way. As one said, “I don’t feel like that at all – at least I don’t think so.” The third thing that emerged was that, in turn, each later said that they did feel just as their partner had said, and hadn’t realized it.</div><div align="justify"><br />It is quite amazing how accurately our innate sensors pick up on the feelings of others. Almost as amazing is how unaware we are of how we are feeling at any given time. We give out the signals quite sub-consciously, hoping, perhaps that someone else will pick up on them. The sad thing is that most people don’t know what to do with what they receive. All we know is that what you feel is what we get. </div><div align="justify"> </div><div align="justify">In peace</div><div align="justify"><br /><a href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/warrenredman.aspx" target="_blank">Warren</a></div><div align="justify"> </div><div align="justify"><em>Congratulations to our latest </em><a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=48" target=""><em>Emotional Fitness Coach</em></a><em>. Maria Schmid, who is also completing her training as a certified psychologist, is now licensed as an EFit Coach and is practicing in Calgary. Contact me now to find out how you can join Maria and the other certified </em><a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=4" target=""><em>Emotional Fitness Coaches wherever you are.</em></a></div><div align="justify"> </div><div align="justify"><span style="color:#333399;"><strong>If you enjoyed Equilibrium of August 13, 2008 please reply with your comments or feedback. If you are sharing this with others please be sure to quote my name in full and my website <a href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/">www.efitinstitute.com</a> Thank you.</strong></span></div><div align="justify"><strong><span style="color:#333399;"></span></strong> </div><div align="center"> <a title="" href="" target="">www.EFitInstitute.com</a> <a href="mailto:warren@EFitInstitute.com">warren@EFitInstitute.com</a> </div><div align="center">(403) 245-5463 or toll free 1-866-310-EFit (3348)</div><div align="justify"><em></em> </div>Warren Redmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01828383106745000130noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7686507413405920264.post-88005465502684609072008-08-01T12:44:00.000-07:002008-08-01T12:53:36.281-07:00Assumptions Are The Death of Communication<strong><span style="color:#ff6600;">Equilibrium August 1, 2008</span></strong><br /><br /><div align="center"><strong><span style="color:#333399;">ASSUMPTIONS ARE THE DEATH OF COMMUNICATION</span></strong></div><div align="center">from <a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=10" target="">The 9 Steps to Emotional Fitness </a> </div><div align="center"> </div><div align="justify"><br />“I thought you said you’d done that.” “No, I said I’d need more time and some training before I could complete it.” “Well, I assumed you were getting the training.” “No, I was waiting for you to train me.”</div><div align="justify"><br />This was the gist of a conversation I overheard recently in a coffee bar between two people working in the head office of a large corporation. Couples make the same kind of assumptions, each thinking that the other said or meant something that never got checked out until, perhaps, they talk it through in front of me.</div><div align="justify"><br />Everywhere, in small and large organizations, in families and across communities, communication breaks down because we make assumptions based on what we believe instead of listening and understanding what the other actually means.</div><div align="justify"><br />Our Emotional Fitness training and coaching enables individuals, couples, teams and organizations to create internal environments where they can truly communicate in a way that brings the best out of everyone.</div><div align="justify"><br />Once we become more emotionally fit, it is easier to set aside the inner voices that prevent us from seeing and hearing clearly. Check out your own assumptions next time you have a conversation – and don’t assume that the other person is the one who has to change!</div><div align="justify"><br />In peace</div><div align="left"><br /><a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=17" target="">Warren</a> </div><div align="left"> </div><div align="justify"><a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=174" target="">Train</a> now as an <a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=48" target="">Emotional Fitness Coach</a>. Wherever you are, you can learn the tools to enable you to offer the most empowering coaching approach available. Don’t assume you can’t do it! Contact me now to find out how you can begin. </div><div align="justify"> </div><div align="center"><a title="" href="" target="">www.EFitInstitute.com</a> <a href="mailto:warren@EFitInstitute.com">warren@EFitInstitute.com</a> </div><div align="center">(403) 245-5463 or toll free 1-866-310-EFit (3348)</div>Warren Redmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01828383106745000130noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7686507413405920264.post-14123705168950913432008-07-24T16:39:00.000-07:002008-07-24T16:46:40.506-07:00Calling All Dads!<span style="color:#ff6600;"><strong>Equilibrium July 24, 2008</strong></span><br /><br /><div align="center"><span style="color:#333399;"><strong>CALLING ALL DADS! NEW CD OUT NOW</strong></span></div><div align="center"><strong><span style="color:#333399;"></span></strong> </div><div align="justify"><br /><a href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=214" target="_blank">BE A GREAT DAD – building your legacy</a> is the title of a new CD produced by Warren Redman in conjunction with Families Matter, a Calgary-based not-for-profit organization dedicated to the healthy development and well-being of families.</div><div align="justify"><br />The CD is a series of interviews with dads, kids and moms about the five things great dads do. Also on the disc is a special excerpt of a story from Stuart McLean.</div><div align="justify"><br />If you’re a dad, make sure you get this for yourself. And for the rest of you, give this as a great gift to any dad you know.</div><div align="justify"><br />You can now purchase this audio CD online through us. Most of the proceeds will go to Families Matter to go back into their development work with fathers.</div><div align="justify"> </div><div align="justify">Click here <a href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=214" target="_blank">BE A GREAT DAD – building your legacy </a>now.</div><div align="left"><br />In peace</div><div align="left"><br /><a href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/warrenredman.aspx" target="_blank">Warren</a></div><div align="left"> </div><div align="justify"><em>You can train now as </em><a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=4" target=""><em>Emotional Fitness Coaches at a distance</em></a><em>. Wherever you are, you can learn the tools to enable you to offer the most empowering coaching approach available. It’s your choice! </em><a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/contactus.aspx" target=""><em>Contact me </em></a><em>now to find out how you can begin. </em></div><div align="left"><em></em> </div><div align="center"><em><a title="" href="" target="">www.EFitInstitute.com</a> <a href="mailto:warren@EFitInstitute.com">warren@EFitInstitute.com</a> </em></div><div align="center"><em>(403) 245-5463 or toll free 1-866-310-EFit (3348)</em></div><div align="left"> </div><div align="left"><em></em> </div><div align="left"><em></em> </div><div align="left"> </div>Warren Redmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01828383106745000130noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7686507413405920264.post-21578911478916413342008-07-18T12:47:00.000-07:002008-07-18T12:56:06.826-07:00Having No Choice Is A Personal Option<span style="color:#ff9900;"><strong>Equilibrium July 18, 2008</strong></span><br /><strong><span style="color:#ff9900;"></span></strong><br /><div align="center"><br /><span style="color:#333399;"><strong>HAVING NO CHOICE IS ALWAYS A PERSONAL OPTION</strong></span><br />from <a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=10" target="">The 9 Steps to Emotional Fitness </a> </div><div align="center"> </div><div align="justify"><br />Last week I was in the UK spending time with family members – something that doesn’t happen often for me these days. It was the occasion of my father’s 90th birthday. He was surrounded by his children and most of his grandchildren.</div><div align="justify"><br />During the conversations and the memories they evoked, I found myself drawn into times when, as a young boy, I felt frustrated because it appeared that I had no choice in how my life was being mapped out for me. </div><div align="justify"><br />It may be true that when we are small children, our choices are pretty limited in terms of the big things in life. One of the things we need to learn as we develop and grow into adulthood is that we always have a choice.</div><div align="justify"><br />When you hear yourself say that you have no choice but to continue this or that, or that you can’t take a decision to change something in your life, you are reverting to an old childhood pattern of feeling powerless. You can make the excuses that you lack resources, time or money, or that other people would be upset. In the end choosing not to do or to do what in your heart you really want is solely within your power. </div><div align="justify"><br />When I was in England I went to visit an old and dear friend who is battling the return of a cancer that has been dogging her for years. In the past she has always fought it off; this time the signs are not good. Her choice is to face each day with joy and determination to move ahead with her life enthusiastically.</div><div align="left"><br />What’s your choice?</div><div align="left"><br />In peace</div><div align="left"><br /><a href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/warrenredman.aspx" target="_blank">Warren</a></div><div align="left"> </div><div align="justify"><em>You can train now as </em><a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=4" target=""><em>Emotional Fitness Coaches at a distance</em></a><em>. Wherever you are, you can learn the tools to enable you to offer the most empowering coaching approach available. It’s your choice! Contact me now to find out how you can begin. </em></div><div align="justify"><em></em> </div><div align="center"> <a title="" href="" target="">www.EFitInstitute.com</a> <a href="mailto:warren@EFitInstitute.com">warren@EFitInstitute.com</a> </div><div align="center">(403) 245-5463 or toll free 1-866-310-EFit (3348)</div>Warren Redmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01828383106745000130noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7686507413405920264.post-42203249154847508562008-07-04T17:08:00.000-07:002008-07-04T17:15:44.651-07:00Monoatheistic Entity (ME)<div align="center"><span style="color:#333399;"><strong>MONOATHEISTIC ENTITY (ME)<br /></strong></span>By Warren Redman</div><div align="center"> </div><div align="justify">The recent spate of books and movies promoting the idea of God and spirituality or refuting the concept of a deity indicate one thing – God is big business. Put God or some similar highly spiritually evocative name in the title of your book and you’ll sell a ton. The entrancement of humans with the desire to make sense of ourselves, our universe and all that’s in it and to explain the otherwise inexplicable is one of the main phenomena that distinguishes humans from any other living entity. Not only do we need to explain; we need something to hang on to when doubt creeps in. Furthermore, those who believe in a “higher power”, or creator or God or other form of external entity that has a mysterious power over our fate and our world have a tendency to see themselves as more highly evolved than those who don’t.</div><div align="justify"><br />Recent research has indicated that those living in secular as distinct from religiously-based countries are more likely to be content and at peace with themselves and their neighbours. This runs counter to conventional wisdom and raises some interesting questions. One of these questions is “how does the myth that religion brings about inner peace survive the facts?” Another is “what do people who don’t believe in God actually believe in that makes them more content?” A third is “what makes people stick to their religious beliefs in the face of apparently overwhelming lack of evidence that God exists?” I will have a mild attempt at answering these questions, partly to help myself understand them and partly to invite your debate. Most of all, I want to answer a fourth question: “in the absence of a belief in God what core belief can a person hold that takes us to the highest level of humanity?”</div><div align="justify"><br /><strong>How does the myth that religion brings about inner peace survive the facts?</strong></div><div align="justify"><br />At least two of the world’s great religions – Christianity and Islam – have as part of their basis in the belief that our real bliss and inner peace and happiness is promised in the afterlife. A significant message to believers, or promised to those who can be brought into the faith, is that you will receive the blessings for this presently lived life in heaven. Struggle, therefore, becomes a virtue and is accepted by the millions who face everyday deprivation, misery and unhappiness because their reward will come as long as they pray and as long as they give themselves selflessly to the teachings of their particular religious branch. Facts, therefore, become irrelevant or easily refutable to those who hold onto their faith as a fact in itself.</div><div align="justify"><br /><strong>What do people who don’t believe in God actually believe in that makes them more content?</strong></div><div align="justify"><br />A researcher, or rather a body of research might attempt an answer which would always fall short of anyone really knowing what disbelievers believe in. My own thoughts are simply that, based on my limited experience of being in other people’s minds and only my own inner searching to go on. It appears, on the face of it, that disbelievers generally don’t believe in anything specific at all; it is simply the absence of belief. The result of that, while not leading people to any great depth of thought or insights into who they are, at least has the possibility of them being free from doubt, fear and antipathy to others of different views. The absence of religious belief, therefore, also provides a stronger basis for the absence of negative beliefs. </div><div align="justify"><br />The absence of a faith does not necessarily mean the absence of a belief. Atheists, agnostics, humanists are all examples of people who have thought out their views and adhere to a set of principles to which they adhere in life, usually of their own making or based on the values espoused by the societies or groups to which they attach themselves. Since there is no promotion of such beliefs, or organized attempts to bring people into the “fold”, those who hold views of this nature tend to hold them independently and are not easily identifiable. This in itself may serve to bring contentment.</div><div align="justify"><br /><strong>What makes people stick to their religious beliefs in the face of apparently overwhelming lack of evidence that God exists?</strong></div><div align="justify"><br />Those who have religious beliefs have the belief itself as their evidence. If they believe in the bible, that is all the evidence they need. If they believe in the word of their priest or imam or other religious leader, no other evidence is needed. Only those who disbelieve would require evidence of the existence of God. The result is that a believer will never persuade a disbeliever or vice-versa. In-between, however, there are many who have doubts. These are the ones who become potential members of a religious group, and who keep the proselytizers continuing their efforts to add to their numbers. The doubters, who don’t find something to hold onto are also the ones who may experience life as more complicated and difficult and who, when they do “find religion” become the most ardent advocates of their chosen faith.</div><div align="justify"><br /><strong>In the absence of a belief in God what core belief can a person hold that takes us to the highest level of humanity?</strong></div><div align="justify"><br />To answer this question I want to take a very idiosyncratic approach and to coin a word that demands an explanation. Monoatheism may seem something of a non-sequitur (as well as a mouthful), but it describes most aptly what I do believe. Before I go on to describe its meaning, I have to add another category of belief to the general understanding of religion, that is the belief in the efficacy of psychological typing, from Meyers Briggs, to the Enneagram, to Emotional Intelligence (or EQ) testing, among a barrage of others. The fervour that accompanies such instruments and their proponents is almost as strong as that of any religious sect.</div><div align="justify"><br />As a Monoatheistic Entity (ME) I have the freedom to be me, together with the responsibility that goes with it and the complete accountability for my actions. To become a ME is not an easy option. It is a journey of intense and continuing personal growth, of learning from sometimes painful experience, of exploration and trial and error as well as the more formal education and personal study that provides a variety of others’ viewpoints. Monoatheism is the term I use for a belief in the one, unique and quite extraordinary individual who is me. It demands that I hold myself to the highest values in which I believe: that is firstly to hold others as being unique and extraordinary individuals, deserving the same respect, wanting and capable of the same love, having their own personal beliefs and values and potential for reaching their dearest goals in life.<br />Being a ME also means attaining a personal degree of emotional, physical, intellectual and spiritual (yes!) fitness to the highest level of one’s potential abilities, without succumbing to the exhortations of others to fit into a mould of their making. This not only includes the pressures to join organized religious groups, or to fit into neatly-packaged psychological and sociological stereotypes, but also the whims of societies that create desires for products of little value apart from the apparent status they impart to the owner and the added wealth it brings to the producer.</div><div align="justify"><br />A Monoatheistic Entity will learn from religious writings, as well as from philosophers, historians, artists and other creative minds. But the ME will learn more from his or her own personal experiences and own fertile imagination. Putting that experience to good use, the ME knows that the path s/he is on and the legacy s/he has to offer is a unique one. The ME understands and accepts that there is no life after death and that the soul has existence only in the living being. It is our duty to bring value to the living and the unborn. The souls of the dead exist as long as they are within the consciousness of the living.</div><div align="justify"><br />The best example of this in my own experience is that of my great-grandfather, who died in 1947, when I was seven years old. As long as I hold not only his memory, but the essence of him within me, he will remain an entity that lives on. I will do my best to pass on the knowledge of him through me to my children and others, so that his light continues. But it exists only in us. It is not a free-floating entity that roams around in some mysterious way looking for a place to alight.</div><div align="justify"><br />So it is with God. God can only exist if humans allow it to be so. Humans created the concept of God to deal with the vast unknowingness that faced early communities. It explained so much and, to the delight of men and women who loved storytelling, fitted perfectly within that tradition. It was also a superb way of organizing society and retaining control over it for those who enjoyed the wielding of power.</div><div align="justify"><br />The core belief of the ME is at least as strongly held as that of any believer in God. The ethical values and integrity of the ME are based, not on externally imposed rules, but on the set of life principles that are part of the ME’s commitment to personal growth.</div><div align="justify"><br />Monoatheism is therefore a choice of personal challenge, human development and belief in the value and uniqueness in the one entity that is constant from birth to death – the self. And since that belief is one which acknowledges all others as having the same value and uniqueness, it is one of acceptance and of love. It is an attainment of the highest level of humanity. And by definition, nobody has to join!</div><div align="left"><br />© Warren Redman, July 2008</div>Warren Redmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01828383106745000130noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7686507413405920264.post-68878480332736067332008-07-02T16:07:00.000-07:002008-07-02T17:08:17.347-07:00Something To Read This Summer<span style="color:#ff9900;"><strong>Equilibrium July 2, 2008</strong></span><br /><span style="color:#333399;"></span><br /><div align="center"><span style="color:#330099;"><strong>SOMETHING TO READ THIS SUMMER </strong></span></div><div align="center"><strong><span style="color:#330099;"></span></strong></div><div align="justify">If you enjoy reading fiction, I invite you to read an as yet unpublished novel of mine. It’s called “State of Flux” and is about four people searching for meaning in their lives. It involves romance, spiritual growth, intrigue and mystery.</div><div align="justify"><br />I will send you an electronic copy if you let me know that you’d like one. All I ask is that you let me have your opinion of the book once you have read it. Just reply to this message and make your request.</div><div align="justify"><br />This week I will be visiting the U.K. spending time mostly with family and celebrating my dad’s 90th birthday. On which note, watch out for news about the CD that I have just completed with the organization Families Matter. It’s called “Be a Great Dad – building your legacy” and features interviews with dads, moms and kids as well as a story from Stuart McLean.</div><div align="left"></div><div align="left">In peace</div><div align="left"><br /><a href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/warrenredman.aspx" target="_blank">Warren</a></div><div align="left"></div><div align="justify"><em>You can train now as </em><a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=4" target=""><em>Emotional Fitness Coaches at a distance</em></a><em>. Wherever you are, you can learn the tools to enable you to offer the most empowering coaching approach available. Contact me now to find out how you can begin. </em></div><div align="left"><em></em></div><div align="center"><a title="" href="http://www.blogger.com/" target="">http://www.blogger.com/</a> <a href="mailto:warren@EFitInstitute.com">warren@EFitInstitute.com</a> </div><div align="center">(403) 245-5463 or toll free 1-866-310-EFit (3348)</div>Warren Redmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01828383106745000130noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7686507413405920264.post-33575578938347498682008-06-23T11:53:00.000-07:002008-06-23T12:14:02.463-07:00Next Time You Breathe, Notice It Is A Miracle<span style="color:#ffcc66;"><strong>Equilibrium June 20, 2008</strong></span><br /><br /><div align="center"><span style="color:#330099;"><strong>NEXT TIME YOU BREATHE, NOTICE IT IS A MIRACLE </strong></span></div><div align="center">from <a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=10" target="">The 9 Steps to Emotional Fitness </a> </div><div align="center"> </div><div align="justify"><br />Taking things for granted is the way most of us live our lives; right up until we see or experience something that brings us up sharply. Flicking on a light switch or turning on the tap for a kettle of water may be an automatic and casual act to us. To the mother sitting holding her starving child in Ethiopia or the father trying to protect his family in Afghanistan those tiny acts would be seen as miracles.</div><div align="justify"><br />Miracles are not those rare, cataclysmic and mind-altering events that only seem to happen to others; they are the tiny things in our everyday lives. We just need to notice them. </div><div align="justify"><br />Part of the role of an Emotional Fitness Coach is to mirror back to you the experiences you are having in a way that encourages you to see them as little short of miraculous. When a client of one of our coaches recently told her that he had just been through one of the hardest periods of his life and went on to describe the traumas he had faced, she was able to help him to see the inner strength that enabled him to seek support, something he had not done before.</div><div align="justify"><br />“You’re right,” he reflected. “It’s a miracle for me to have asked anyone for help. I always believed that I had to work everything out for myself. Now that I’ve started doing this I realize how much I’ve been missing.”</div><div align="justify"><br />We can create the small, personal miracles for ourselves whenever we want. It helps to notice the miracles first, like being alive; like breathing.<br /><br />In peace</div><div align="left"><br /><a href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/warrenredman.aspx" target="_blank">Warren</a></div><div align="left"> </div><div align="left"><em>You can train now as </em><a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=4" target=""><em>Emotional Fitness Coaches at a distance</em></a><em>. Wherever you are, you can learn the tools to enable you to offer the most empowering coaching approach available. It’s a miracle! </em><a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/contactus.aspx" target=""><em>Contact me </em></a><em>now to find out how you can begin. </em></div><div align="left"><em></em> </div><div align="center"><em> <a title="" href="" target="">www.EFitInstitute.com</a> <a href="mailto:warren@EFitInstitute.com">warren@EFitInstitute.com</a> </em></div><div align="center"><em>(403) 245-5463 or toll free 1-866-310-EFit (3348)</em></div><div align="left"> </div><div align="left"> </div>Warren Redmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01828383106745000130noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7686507413405920264.post-49187940482404262692008-06-11T13:50:00.000-07:002008-06-11T13:57:46.100-07:00There Are Four L's in Life:<span style="color:#ff9900;"><strong>Equilibrium June 11, 2008</strong></span><br /><strong><span style="color:#ff9900;"></span></strong><br /><div align="center"><strong><span style="color:#333399;">THERE ARE FOUR L’s IN LIFE:</span></strong></div><div align="center"><strong><span style="color:#333399;">LOVE, LAUGHTER, LISTENING AND LEARNING</span></strong></div><div align="center">from <a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=10" target="">The 9 Steps to Emotional Fitness </a> </div><div align="center"> </div><div align="justify"><br />One of the processes we use in Emotional Fitness is called the Lifescale. It consists of ten questions, which together help us make sense of the balance we have between our satisfactions and frustrations in life. Each question has a key word that happens to begin with P, such as Pleasure and Pain, Peace or Pressure.</div><div align="justify"><br />As a fan of cryptic crosswords and word games generally, as well as being a writer, I am fascinated by how we use words to express our feelings and beliefs. There is a power to the words we use that can change whole perspectives and ways of living.</div><div align="justify"><br />If you care to try a definition of life (without being technical about it) you might find it daunting and even unrewarding. If you look at its meaning, you may get into so many hypothetical possibilities that you go around in circles. If, however, you take the particular perspective I offer here and use the first letter of life to stand for love, laughter, listening and learning, what happens?</div><div align="justify"><br />Let me know. And while you’re at it, come up with other possibilities – for example, the four H’s in Human are Hope, Happiness, Health, and Heart.</div><div align="justify"><br />In peace</div><div align="left"><br /><a href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/warrenredman.aspx" target="_blank">Warren</a></div><div align="left"> </div><div align="justify"><em>I’m now working with people who wish to train as </em><a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=4" target=""><em>Emotional Fitness Coaches at a distance</em></a><em>. Wherever you are, you can now learn the tools to enable you to offer the most empowering coaching approach available. Contact me to find out how you can begin.</em></div><div align="justify"><em></em> </div><div align="center"><em><a title="" href="" target="">www.EFitInstitute.com</a> <a href="mailto:warren@EFitInstitute.com">warren@EFitInstitute.com</a> </em></div><div align="center"><em>(403) 245-5463 or toll free 1-866-310-EFit (3348)</em></div><div align="left"> </div><div align="left"> </div>Warren Redmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01828383106745000130noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7686507413405920264.post-68608317417272877992008-06-06T10:49:00.000-07:002008-06-06T11:02:49.182-07:00The Moment of Truth Comes Any Time You Want To Hear It<span style="color:#ff9900;"><strong>Equilibrium June 2, 2008</strong></span><br /><strong><span style="color:#ff9900;"></span></strong><br /><div align="center"><strong><span style="color:#000066;">THE MOMENT OF TRUTH COMES ANY TIME YOU WANT TO HEAR IT </span></strong></div><div align="center"><strong><span style="color:#000066;">from <a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=10" target="">The 9 Steps to Emotional Fitness </a> </span></strong></div><div align="center"><strong><span style="color:#000066;"></span></strong> </div><div align="center"><strong><span style="color:#000066;"></span></strong> </div><span style="color:#000066;"><div align="justify"><br /><span style="color:#000000;">There comes a time when we will each be confronted by a life-changing event or decision. Perhaps you have already faced one or two of those in your life. You will understand what I mean if you have.</span></div><div align="justify"><br /><span style="color:#000000;">Frequently, the people who ask for Emotional Fitness coaching have recently faced or had a cathartic experience. Maybe it is the loss of a job or a relationship, or the gaining or losing of a big contract. Sometimes it is the dawning realization that life must have something better to offer than the strains of everyday pressures giving little peace of mind and growing dissatisfactions.</span></div><span style="color:#000000;"><div align="justify"><br />In those times, we get to tune in to messages that have been there all the time, yet which we seldom hear. The messages include the fact that we are always in charge of our life as long as we are conscious about that and decide to choose how we want to live it. They include the understanding that our world is exactly the one we construct, and if we don’t like it, we can change it.</div><div align="justify"><br />The real truth is that we are hugely powerful. Face that and you have faced the real truth about yourself.<br /><br />In peace</div><div align="justify"><br /></span><a href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/warrenredman.aspx" target="_blank"><strong>Warren</strong></a></div><div align="justify"> </div><div align="justify"><span style="color:#000000;"><em>Attend our </em></span><a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=183" target=""><em><span style="color:#3333ff;">introductory session on June 12th</span></em></a><span style="color:#000000;"><em> in the morning and discover how to become an </em></span><a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=48" target=""><em><span style="color:#3333ff;">Emotional Fitness Coach</span></em></a></span><span style="color:#000000;"><em>. These are the skills proven to be of great benefit to leaders within the workplace, in groups and in individual practices. Give a call now to register.</em></span></div><div align="justify"><em></em> </div><div align="center"><a title="" href="" target="">www.EFitInstitute.com</a> <a href="mailto:warren@EFitInstitute.com">warren@EFitInstitute.com</a> </div><div align="center">(403) 245-5463 or toll free 1-866-310-EFit (3348)</div>Warren Redmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01828383106745000130noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7686507413405920264.post-43211450203607651892008-05-28T07:57:00.000-07:002008-05-28T08:06:36.000-07:00Put Your Buts Into A Can<span style="color:#ff9900;"><strong>Equilibrium May 26 , 2008</strong></span><br /><br /><div align="center"><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>PUT YOUR BUTS INTO A CAN</strong></span> </div><div align="center">from <a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=10" target="">The 9 Steps to Emotional Fitness </a> </div><div align="center"> </div><div align="justify"><br />There is nothing wrong with that little word <em>but</em>, but I take care how I use it, since an over or inappropriate use gives the message that I negate myself. </div><div align="justify"><br />Emotional Fitness includes the ability to consciously choose our language and how we use words to express ourselves. Words are powerful. A small word like <em>but</em> has the power to undo hopes and dreams. Used often enough with our children, or our employees or spouse, we can create doubt and indecision.</div><div align="justify"><br />One dad I know with two very energetic and bright young sons responds to their requests and occasionally downright outrageous ideas for what they want by asking <em>how can we do that?</em> instead of the perhaps more common one of, <em>but we do not have the money (or nobody has done that before, or you will never be able to learn that in time …..).</em></div><div align="justify"><br />When you hear a but come out of your mouth, or even circulate around your brain, check the meaning behind it. Transforming that <em>but</em> into a can is one way of opening out the possibilities instead of closing them down. Imagine what that can do to a life.</div><div align="justify"> </div><div align="justify">In peace</div><div align="justify"><br /><a href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/warrenredman.aspx" target="_blank">Warren</a></div><div align="justify"> </div><div align="justify"><em>I have just finished the workshop in Ottawa this past weekend. I will be back in Calgary and ready to start the </em><a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=4" target=""><em>distance learning course </em></a><em>for those who wish to train as Emotional Fitness Coaches. Contact me now if you want to take part or to join the </em><a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=183" target=""><em>Emotional Fitness Coach Training by Modules</em></a><em> that begins in Calgary in June.</em></div><div align="justify"><em></em> </div><div align="center"><em> <a title="" href="" target="">www.EFitInstitute.com</a> <a href="mailto:warren@EFitInstitute.com">warren@EFitInstitute.com</a> </em></div><div align="center"><em>(403) 245-5463 or toll free 1-866-310-EFit (3348)</em></div><div align="justify"> </div>Warren Redmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01828383106745000130noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7686507413405920264.post-48052760376007681302008-05-15T14:50:00.000-07:002008-05-15T14:59:27.319-07:00We Can All Win The Human Race<span style="color:#000099;">Equilibrium May 12 , 2008</span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"></span><br /><div align="center"><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>WE CAN ALL WIN THE HUMAN RACE</strong></span></div><div align="center">from <a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=10" target="">The 9 Steps to Emotional Fitness </a> </div><div align="center"> </div><div align="justify"><br />It’s not a race. We are, but it isn’t. Oddly we do often appear to act as though we are not from the same species and that, indeed, the race is on to be better than the other guy or to have more and show more success in whatever way we deem it.</div><div align="justify"><br />The fact is that there are comparatively few winners and a huge number of losers in the way in which the chips have fallen and we humans have responded. We still act as our ancestors did, willing to climb over the person in front of us to get to the top. Of course, within the safe confines of our micro-chip consumer world in corporate settings within affluent societies, the desire to win comes through politely and subtly; in the undercurrent of snide remarks or the deliberate silent treatment targeted at a colleague.</div><div align="justify"><br />It’s not as harsh a punishment as the withholding of economic aid and empowerment of communities in starving communities, but it has its toll on the whole human race.</div><div align="justify"><br />There are different forms of winning. If in a business deal or an agreement between a parent and a child we can see that it’s possible to have a “win-win”, then it follows that we could all win from a willingness to live by the principle that what’s important in life is not to have more than we can possibly consume but rather what we hold as values. Truth, love, sincerity and safety for all are a few starting points. There’s enough to go around.<br /><br />In peace</div><div align="justify"><br /><a href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/warrenredman.aspx" target="_blank">Warren</a></div><div align="justify"> </div><div align="justify">The world needs more <a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=48" target="">Emotional Fitness Coaches</a>. If you are seeking greater fulfilment in your work and already have a background in personal growth, take a look at what this <a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=174" target="">training</a> can do for you.</div><div align="justify"> </div><div align="center"><a title="" href="" target="">www.EFitInstitute.com</a> <a href="mailto:warren@EFitInstitute.com">warren@EFitInstitute.com</a> </div><div align="center">(403) 245-5463 or toll free 1-866-310-EFit (3348)</div><div align="justify"> </div>Warren Redmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01828383106745000130noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7686507413405920264.post-47704567826775849182008-05-01T14:52:00.000-07:002008-05-01T15:00:40.018-07:00Love Doesn't Come With An "If"<span style="color:#ff9900;"><strong>Equilibrium May 1 , 2008</strong></span><br /><strong><span style="color:#ff9900;"></span></strong><br /><div align="center"><strong><span style="color:#000066;">LOVE DOESN’T COME WITH AN “IF”</span></strong> </div><div align="center">from <a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=10" target="">The 9 Steps to Emotional Fitness </a> </div><div align="center"> </div><div align="justify"><br />Sure, there are some things that are conditional, and are entitled to be. Trust counts among them; entering into a business contract is another; agreeing to take on another responsibility a third. Love is not one. There can be nothing conditional about love, or it is not love.</div><div align="justify"><br />We humans have an apparently limitless capacity for love, both in its giving and in its receiving. At the same time, we have an equally surprising ability to deny ourselves and others of that love. Self-doubt, fear and anger can so often obscure our innate and authentic self that the scraps of love we are willing to offer and accept become conditional, so that the little attempts we make can disappear altogether.</div><div align="justify"><br />You may be thinking of the ones close to you whom you love. I’d like you to think more widely than that, and perhaps differently about how you can show your capacity for love. Think about how you show your love as a boss, or a work colleague, or a lawyer, dentist or storekeeper. Think about the unconditional love you can demonstrate to your neighbour, or the stranger you meet in the gym. </div><div align="justify"><br />The “if” that gets in the way could be the internal voice that says “I’m angry with this person because the work hasn’t been finished properly”, or “this person won’t want to talk to me”, or “that person looks too busy (or intimidating, or unfriendly etc.). Set aside those inner messages for a moment and offer the greatest gift of love that one human can freely give another. Listen.</div><div align="left"><br />In peace</div><div align="left"><br /><a href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/warrenredman.aspx" target="_blank">Warren</a></div><div align="left"><br /><em>A couple of spaces are left for our new </em><a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=194" target=""><em>Emotional Fitness for Leaders</em></a><em>. Check it out. For information click on our training section in the website. The first workshop is May 8th and 9th. And when you are ready to explore being an </em><a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=48" target=""><em>Emotional Fitness Coach</em></a><em>, we are ready for you with our new modular course series beginning at the end of May, our </em><a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=4" target=""><em>distance learning </em></a><em>and the next class-room program in October. </em></div><div align="left"><br />Warren</div><div align="center"><a title="" href="" target="">www.EFitInstitute.com</a> <a href="mailto:warren@EFitInstitute.com">warren@EFitInstitute.com</a> </div><div align="center">(403) 245-5463 or toll free 1-866-310-EFit (3348)</div><div align="left"> </div><div align="left"> </div>Warren Redmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01828383106745000130noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7686507413405920264.post-46216127538689967322008-04-17T09:02:00.000-07:002008-04-17T09:11:56.420-07:00<span style="color:#ff9966;">Equilibrium April 17, 2008</span><br /><br /><div align="center"><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>THE POINT OF LIFE MAY JUST BE TO EXPERIENCE IT</strong></span></div><div align="center">from <a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=10" target="">The 9 Steps to Emotional Fitness </a></div><br /><div align="justify">In the universal human search for meaning, there are almost as many answers as there are people. This is often organized into our religions, cultures, nations and communities. Victor Frankl, wrote much of his book “Man’s Search for Meaning” while encarcerated in the Nazi concentration camp of Auschwitz. My own mentor and teacher, Eugene Heimler was a contemporary of Frankl and was another survivor of Auschwitz. Heimler’s books included “Survival in Society” which eventually became the basis for my own work and books. </div><div align="justify"><br />Both of those great teachers sought to understand life’s meaning, largely as a result of their living in a totally negative and, one might imagine, meaningless environment. What they wrote about was their own experience. This brings me to the conclusion that the meaning of life - its whole point – is simply to experience it. And our duty is to relate our experience. And listen to the experience of others.</div><div align="justify"><br />That’s how we will learn. And grow. And hopefully, never allow anyone to experience the same again. At home, in our work places, in our relationships with others, when we create the opportunity to share experience, everyone’s lives become more meaningful and worthwhile.</div><div align="justify"></div>In peace<br /><a href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/warrenredman.aspx" target="_blank">Warren</a><br /><br /><div align="justify">Are you, or do you know, a leader wanting to create a different, more positive working environment? If so, the new <a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=194" target="">Emotional Fitness for Leaders </a>workshop series could be the ideal way forward. For information click on our training section in the website. The first workshop is <a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=195" target="">May 8th and 9th</a>.</div>Warren<br /><div align="center"><a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/" target="">http://www.efitinstitute.com/</a> <a href="mailto:warren@EFitInstitute.com">warren@EFitInstitute.com</a> </div><div align="center">(403) 245-5463 or toll free 1-866-310-EFit (3348)</div><div align="center"> </div><div align="center"><a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/contactus.aspx" target="">Contact Us</a></div>Warren Redmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01828383106745000130noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7686507413405920264.post-74886669937065357242008-04-17T08:50:00.000-07:002008-04-17T09:01:31.404-07:00<span style="color:#ff9900;"><strong>Equilibrium April 8, 2008</strong></span><br /><br /><div align="center"><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>WHEN ALL IS SAID AND DONE, THERE’S A LOT MORE SAID THAN DONE</strong></span> </div><br /><div align="center">from <a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=10" target="">The 9 Steps to Emotional Fitness </a></div><br /><div align="center"></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:times new roman;">Here’s one of the quotes that I didn’t think up – it’s an old one that I recall from my childhood and one that has become more pertinent the more I hear people talk without the evidence of any action.</span></div><span style="font-family:times new roman;"><br /><div align="justify"><br />One of the key elements that constitutes the 9 Steps to Emotional Fitness is that each one of them moves inevitably to a change of understanding and ultimately to changed behaviour. In other words, this is not just talk; it is a call to action. I am often asked whether Emotional Fitness is coaching or counselling and what the difference is anyway. Our work at the Emotional Fitness Institute doesn’t fit neatly into either category; it is a discipline in its own right.</div><br /><div align="justify"><br />Being emotionally fit doesn’t simply mean feeling better about ourselves, it also means that we act in a way that is harmonious with our thoughts, words and feelings. In our world of greed, self-righteousness and discord, it is tough to be true to our personal ideals in a way that is authentic and a demonstration of how humans can behave in ways that respects all.</div><br /><div align="justify"><br />Forty years after his death, we can still admire the work and life of Martin Luther King who was prepared to do whatever it took to make sure that his words had substance and made a difference. But how many of us are prepared to do more than just the talking?</div><p>In peace<br /><a href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/warrenredman.aspx" target="_blank">Warren</a></p><p align="justify">Take a look for the new modular training programs we are now offering. One is specifically designed for <a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=194" target="">Leaders</a>, the other for those who wish to become <a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=183" target="">Emotional Fitness Coaches</a>.</p><p>Warren</p><p align="center"><a title="" href="" target="">www.EFitInstitute.com</a> <a href="mailto:warren@EFitInstitute.com">warren@EFitInstitute.com</a> </p><p align="center">(403) 245-5463 or toll free 1-866-310-EFit (3348)</p><p><br /></p><div align="justify"></span></div><br /><div align="justify"><span style="font-family:times new roman;"></span></div>Warren Redmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01828383106745000130noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7686507413405920264.post-61095308231785125082008-03-28T19:22:00.000-07:002008-03-28T19:32:54.872-07:00The Less I Know That I Know, The Wiser I Become<span style="color:#ff9900;">Equilibrium March 27, 2008</span><br /><br /><div align="center"><span style="color:#330099;"><strong>THE LESS I KNOW THAT I KNOW, THE WISER I BECOME</strong></span></div><div align="center">from <a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=10" target="">The 9 Steps to Emotional Fitness </a></div><div align="center"> </div><div align="justify"><br />To many people this is the Knowledge Age and knowledge workers have been in high demand in industries of all kinds for almost a generation.</div><div align="justify"><br />All the signs are pointing to a change. If you haven’t noticed it, this is because it has crept upon us and has hardly entered the consciousness yet. Daniel Pink, in his ground-breaking book A Whole New Mind has pointed out the change. His take on that change is that we are moving from the emphasis on left-brain thinking to right brain consciousness; that is to say to the creative side of ourselves. </div><div align="justify"><br />My own belief is that we need to move to the Age of Wisdom. Humans need to grow up, and grow up fast. I won’t bore you with why we need to do this – you already know why. Instead I want to say what that means to me.</div><div align="justify"><br />Wisdom is the ability to listen and attend to what is real. It is the humility to know that we know very little in the context of the wonder that is the universe and the drama that is humanity. It is the courage to be authentic and at the same time to value the uniqueness of others in their diversity. It is the willingness to take risks and to seek new ways to find solutions to old challenges, while knowing that the simpler the way, the more likely the chance of success.</div><div align="justify"><br />Above all, perhaps, wisdom is the acceptance that our world is a reflection of us and that to change anything in the world it is first necessary to become everything that we desire of the world.</div><div align="justify"><br />In peace<br /><a href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/warrenredman.aspx" target="_blank">Warren</a></div><div align="justify"><br /><em>Congratulations and welcome to </em><a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=186" target=""><em>Kathy Chury </em></a><em>who is our most recently certified Emotional Fitness Coach. Kathy is a registered nurse. You can find her on the website under </em><a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=6" target=""><em>Our Team</em></a><em>.</em></div><div align="left"><em>Warren Redman</em></div><em><div align="center"><br /></em><a title="" href="" target="">www.EFitInstitute.com</a> <a href="mailto:warren@EFitInstitute.com">warren@EFitInstitute.com</a> </div><div align="center">(403) 245-5463 or toll free 1-866-310-EFit (3348)</div><div align="center"><br /><a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/contactus.aspx" target="">Contact Us</a></div><div align="justify"> </div>Warren Redmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01828383106745000130noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7686507413405920264.post-37131465365389128482008-03-12T16:22:00.000-07:002008-03-12T16:36:21.604-07:00There Is Always Another Hand<span style="color:#ff6600;">Equilibrium March 7, 2008</span><br /><div align="center"><br /><span style="color:#000099;">THERE IS ALWAYS ANOTHER HAND</span></div><br /><div align="center">from <a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=10" target="">The 9 Steps to Emotional Fitness </a></div><br /><div align="center"></div><br /><div align="justify"><br />Remember the line in “Fiddler on the Roof”? Tevya debated endlessly with himself about his daughters (on the one hand this, and on the other hand that) until he finally lost patience and declared, “There is no other hand!” </div><div align="justify"><br />For him, at that point of his frustration, there appeared to be no other way than the one he had traditionally been taught. Certainly, when our most cherished values are under attack, we will decide what is absolutely right for us and act on that. Even then, there are as many points of view as there are unique individuals living.</div><div align="justify"><br />When I recently wrote about spirituality and religion, several comments from different people claimed that their version of the truth is the one. The stronger the faith, the less willingness it appears there is to accept another’s. I’m hot on supporting the first, but little gets me angrier than the lack of acceptance between people.</div><div align="justify"><br />My take on it is that we can all hold our personal beliefs and still offer a hand to others who may want our support and acceptance without wanting to convert them to our way of thinking. That way there will always be another hand.</div><div align="left"><br />In peace<br /><a href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/warrenredman.aspx" target="_blank">Warren</a><br /><br /><strong>Congratulations to a few of our Emotional Fitness Coaches.</strong> </div><br /><div align="justify"><br /><a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=156" target="">Jo-Ann Pawliw </a>has a contract to coach the management and sales team of an international retail store that is already the most successful in North America and wants to be better. </div><div align="justify"><br />Kelly Robbins has been elected the Canadian representative for Mrs. International and will be entering the world finals in Chicago. </div><div align="justify"><br /><a title="" href="http://www.efitinstitute.com/Default.aspx?PageID=178" target="">Bruce Rosove </a>is now developing the Emotional Fitness Institute in Ottawa and is hosting a workshop there in May. 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